expectation: the mind set of how things will be going even before they actually happen
capability or potential: i.e, leadership, intelligence and etc
Expectation is a very powerful that it can influence the perception regardless of the actual situation or condition.
For a person that have put a high expectation on someone, that at first sight is he is all perfect. When that particular person somehow manage to observe a flaw in that person that is lower than his expectation, his perception of that person will actually degraded. The higher the expectation that he set the lower he will degrade the person in his heart. It is not the actual potential of a person that will influence how we see a person is, but our first impression. No matter how high the potential or capabilities of a person, if our expectation is higher than his actual potential we can only see his potential is lower than he actually is.
No doubt, this situation often happen in our life. How many time have we being disheartened by what we got merely because we feel that we deserve better.
There is this person which I looked down, when I found out this person is actually better than what I think, now I have respected this person even more. There is also so many people that do not reach my expectation.
It is irony that, I myself decide what I want to see, what I want to feel.
For the people in searching for life partner
if you expect him or her to be too good,
When the reality not,
you will only discontent at him or her.
The movies,novels, all depicting a love story that is too good to be true. Unfortunately this has penetrated our mind, and we have set it as a benchmark or a standard by which we measure our happiness. Irony, irony...
However, I do not recommend that we looked down on people. Because, once we have look down on them especially people that we rarely interact, it is hard to see what is good about them anymore. Since we only judge people by the look,- externally, and they have no chance to defend them self that they are better than what you think, you will never be able to see the real them.
A person, what is in them is so beautiful once we know them
So do the future. We need not to be a pessimist, once we do, we will be only trapped in dismay afraid to move forward.
So, what we need? we need to be
realistic.wallahua'lam
p/s: to all humanity that read this post
please be honest, and be yourself at all time
especially those, who are searching soul mate
the only result of hypocrisy in relationship is
the destruction of the relationship itself
sauntering in the vast world
searching for a answers
